Raye Lee is a new mom from Springfield, Missouri. Her child had to be delivered by c-section and when she told someone recently, they commented: “Oh. A c-section? So you didn’t actually give birth. It must have been nice to take the easy way out like that.”
As you can imagine, she wasn't very happy about it. So she decided to take to Facebook and share the graphic photos that prove a c-section isn't the "easy way out."
Ah, yes. My emergency c-section was absolutely a matter of convenience. It was really convenient to be in labor for 38 hours before my baby went into distress and then every contraction was literally STOPPING his HEART.
Being told at the beginning that I was displaying great progress and wouldn't need a cesarean section... and then being told that I was being prepped for major abdominal surgery was not a shock at all. It had nothing to do with the fact that I physically couldn’t because I was given no other choice to save the life of my child. Oh, and that surgery is super easy peasy to recover from.
WRONG, That is all sarcasm.
Lee went on to explain how paniful the c-section was, and how she'd much rather have had a natural birth.
This was the most painful thing I have experienced in my life.
I now belong to a badass tribe of mamas with the scar to prove that I had a baby cut out of me and lived to tell the tale.
( because you can die from this, you know. )
Having a shrieking infant pulled out of an incision that is only 5 inches long, but is cut and shredded and pulled until it rips apart through all of your layers of fat, muscle, and organs (which they lay on the table next to your body, in order to continue to cut until they reach your child) is a completely different experience than I had imagined my sons birth to be.
This was not pleasant. It still isn't.
And it's still causing Lee issues to this day.
You use your core muscles for literally everything... even sitting down, imagine not being able to use them because they have literally been shredded and mangled by a doctor and not being able to repair them for 6+ weeks because your body has to do it naturally.
When that first nurse asked you to try getting out of bed and the ripping pain of a body cut apart and stitched back together seared through you, you realized the irony of anybody who talks about it being the "easy way out". So fuck you and fuck how you see what I did.
I am the strongest woman, that I know. Not only for myself, but for my beautiful son... and I would honestly go through this every single day just to make sure I am able to see his smiling face.
Commenters were quick to applaud Lee for deciding to share her story.
"This post has gotten so much recognition for us c-section warriors," Lee wrote in a comment. "You're all amazing."
Lee's post has been overwhelmed with support, garnering over 5,500 shares and 3,800 likes.
She took the opportunity to share a photo of her child, who's now one week old.
Childbirth isn't a competition, and however the baby is delivered, it isn't exactly "easy." This should serve as a good reminder of the sacrifices women make to keep the human race going.