First dates can be grueling, because we always want to put our best foot forward. Unfortunately for many of us, that means we do our best to hide whatever we think our flaws are, and do everything to avoid what we want to conceal.
But like my good friend, David Vadim, tells me all the time, the source of our talent, charm, all of that good stuff, lies in our can't, and our reaction to what we can't do.
And as difficult and scary as it may sound, the best way to find out if someone is the one for you is to go for broke right at the beginning of the relationship. If it crashes and burns, it isn't meant to be. If you take that risk and the other person is charmed and genuinely interested in it, well, it looks like you've got a real chance at having something special with someone.