According to the United Kingdom's National Autistic Society, and as anyone who is close to a person with autism will know, people with the condition are prone to meltdowns. "It is not bad or naughty behaviour and should not be considered as such," their website explains. "When a person is completely overwhelmed, and their condition means it is difficult to express that in appropriate way, it is understandable that the result is a meltdown."
Twitter user @Rubyredroses, aka Ruby, from Sunderland in the United Kingdom recently took to Twitter to share the adorable gift she received from a man with autism who lives in her building after he said something unkind to her during one such meltdown the previous week.
Ruby explains: "I live in a building with an autistic man who has bipolar [disorder], he has angry outbursts and last week said something really unkind, he struggles with understanding he’s in the wrong & apologising but gave me this today."
The card, delivered alongside a bouquet of flowers and bag of cookies, reads:
I don't like how things are at the moment and I miss are [sic] times together talking and sociallising [sic].
Sometimes I say things in the heat of the moment I do not all ways [sic] mean. I hope you will accept my sorry gifts.
PS. I really do like you and your family and dog."
Ruby explains on her website that she has aspergers and has also battled with mental illness:
"In November 2015 I was diagnosed with a neurological condition called aspergers, or better known as high functioning autism, I had been on the spectrum since birth but nobody picked up on the signs until I was unwell in hospital."
"This changed my life in reality, growing up feeling like an outsider and always not feeling how I thought I was suppose to feel came to end, I had a legitimate reason why I was this way so as of then I accepted and embraced my condition."
So Ruby seems to understand the man's outburst, as shown by her replies to comments after the tweet went viral with over 30,000 likes and 220,000 likes.
Isn’t it 😩 I actually couldn’t cope with how thoughtful and sincere it was— Ruby 🌹 (@rubyredr0ses) May 4, 2018
Haha he doesn’t like sweet food or I would of— Ruby 🌹 (@rubyredr0ses) May 4, 2018
People seem impressed with the apology.
Exactly! The manager told me he’s never apologised to anybody before never mind a card & gifts 😭💘— Ruby 🌹 (@rubyredr0ses) May 5, 2018
Yeah he does, to be fair I am always really lovely to him so it crushed me when he blew at me one day. I was in tears for days so glad he apoligised!— Ruby 🌹 (@rubyredr0ses) May 5, 2018
I can imagine that would be difficult. I'm really glad you got it all sorted, though. And if it happens again, at least you know he doesn't mean it in his heart.— Aimie | Blissful Lemon 🍋🌺 (@ablissfullemon) May 5, 2018
Even the professionals are impressed.
Is that like a mental health unit? I’m so glad you think it could be of use!— Ruby 🌹 (@rubyredr0ses) May 5, 2018
I’ve spent 8 months detained in one so I can completely relate to them ☺️ give them all my best— Ruby 🌹 (@rubyredr0ses) May 5, 2018
Twitter users who know people with similar conditions also applauded the man.
My brother has aspergers and bipolar so I know how it is to see someone get so low and angry, it’s so sweet of him x— Ellie 💗 (@ellebessey) May 5, 2018
This is lovely. Often my husband can have outbursts due to this, too. Life can be very difficult to navigate, that's for sure!— Tea, Cake and Make Ⓥ (@teacakeandmake) May 5, 2018
I'm Aspergers (on the autism spectrum) and too often say hurtful things to people close to me. Fortunately they are very understanding, but I avoid speaking to people I don't know in case I say the wrong thing sparking an unpleasant reaction. I'm wired differently to most people.— Robin Smith 🇬🇧#FBPE🇬🇧 (@BW400CN) May 5, 2018
Oh wow ..as a mum to 2 on spectrum thank you xx— charlene wedgner (@charlenebooks83) May 5, 2018
Others just want to see the dog, this is the Internet after all.
And dog. So cute— Kezsa (@kezsajm) May 5, 2018
And of course, Ruby delivered.
What do you think of the note?