It's a horrifying thought to believe that the person you're in love with secretly, deep down inside, is capable of not only manipulating you emotionally, but physically abusing and harming you in downright evil ways.
Sadly, there's no shortage of stories on the internet where this is exactly the case. People's wives, husbands, girlfriends, and boyfriends are, unfortunately, often involved in some pretty heinous acts against their significant others.
Something that Redditor IntrepidSport thought her boyfriend was guilty of when she started waking up in her bed with red spots on her body and no memory of what had occurred the night before. All she was left with was the "aftermath" and a ton of questions.
The severity of her suspicions makes me question why she decided to jump on reddit for advice right away instead of getting tested first, but when you're afraid that your boyfriend, who's also a doctor, might be drugging and sexually assaulting you, I can't imagine that going about things methodically and with a clear head is really an option.
This is in north Texas.
Hey so I must apologize if this post is jumbled a bit. I started typing it up in Word yesterday before my date and forgot about it before finishing it today.
I think my boyfriend has been secretly drugging me for a while now and is gaslighting me. I know this is going to be hard to explain, but I have been having gaps in memory that I have been explaining away as being tired, or overworked, or whatever else. I was going to ask my boyfriend about it, since he is a doctor, but then I started to notice that this seems to happen when I go on dates with him.
I know it must be crazy, but I have woken up with dried semen on my breasts several times with no memory of the night before. I know its him as… well I wont get into specifics but he likes that kind of thing more than other guys would…
The first time it happened was when we were drinking and I wrote it off as too much to drink. We get drunk and have sex all the time so its not a big deal to me. But then there were a few times when I KNOW we were not drinking.
I decided to break up with him over it only to suddenly find myself on a date with him a few days later. I had not yet had the conversation to break up with him, but planned on it next time I talked with him. I remember being at the restaurant, but nothing before that. My car and his car was in the parking lot too so I was confused.
I decided to play along when he asked me to come back to his place.
After 3 days at his place I remembered everything so I was started to trust him again. Knowing he was an ENT I know it won't be his forte but he is a doctor. I was going to ask him about my issues when he randomly pointed to these red bumps on my thigh and said I should be treating those sores.
I had completely forgotten they were there. These little red bumps that look like needle injections that got infected. I got so freaked out he mentioned them that I decided to leave.
The next day he came over to “Check on me” and I remember waking up in bed with more dried semen on my chest.
Then today he met me for lunch saying we had agreed to meet. I never agreed to meet with him and would never want to. He does this all the time, saying we agreed to do something I have no memory of.
I am sick and tired of it and want him punished.
This has started to affect my work life as well as I start to get paranoid when I see a boss walk into a room after making eye contact with me. I get paranoid that they are about to fire me. My friends also state I have been acting strangely and out of character. I have even begun to lose sleep and sleepwalk when I do.
Is there a way to have blood work done to see what kind of drug he is using on me? I do not want the police to blow me off and push me away as some crazy lady so I want to be sure when I go to the police.
Her account of events, although scattered, is horrifying to read. She was convinced that her boyfriend was guilty of injecting her with some type of drug that spurred her memory loss, but after paying close attention to her recounting of events, it seemed a bit off.
The fact that her symptoms cleared up while she was staying at his house doesn't make sense, something that some other redditors also picked up on. Also, the red marks on her arms becoming infected is another thing that got commenters thinking they weren't needle prick marks at all, but something much more disgusting.
You mentioned red bumps on your thigh, insomnia, memory loss, paranoia and anxiety?
Pull the sheets off your mattress please. Check in the little creases for brown specs or encrusted brown flakes.
These symptoms sounds eerily familiar to what happened to a friend of mine. We thought he was going crazy. Turns out he was having a severe reaction to long term bedbug bites.
You mentioned that you remember everything that happened at his place but as soon as you got home it started up again?
Bedbugs can cause psychological symptoms if the reaction is severe enough.
I would check the lip of the mattress first to see if you have bedbugs.
Now, I know that bedbugs are nearly impossible to get rid of, and cleaning a home that's infested with the little nasty monsters is a Herculean task that's expensive, time-consuming, and annoying. Most people who have furniture or clothing infested with bedbugs seal them up and burn them.
What I didn't know is that bedbug bites can have such a wide-ranging and severe breadth of reactions in different people. A litany of different mental health problems could arise from long-term exposure to bedbugs and mites. I'm getting itchy just thinking about it.
IntrepidSport, after reading the replies to her post, decided to check her mattress and see if there were any bedbugs there.
Wait Seriously? Does it look like dried chocolate or poop chunks along the seam of the mattress?
Yes. That what you see?
Yes. All long the left side of my mattress by the wall.
Her reddit thread's currently locked, and she hasn't updated the post, but it could very well be that the source of her memory loss isn't because she's being drugged by her boyfriend at all, but a case of horrible bedbugs. This is like something out of a horror movie, for both OP and her boyfriend.
It's not like everyone in the comments section of her post is wiping their hands and saying, "Well this problem is solved," though. They're still encouraging her to get checked out by a doctor (who isn't her boyfriend) and get blood work done to see if she has been drugged.
Former professional pest control guy here with lots of experience with bedbugs. I will happily answer any questions about bedbugs.
My first bit of advice is for you to get professional treatment of the bedbugs. It is not cheap, but they are incredibly difficult to get rid of. Bedbugs can survive a year or more without feeding and do cause a wide array of psychological issues due to prolonged extremely poor sleep. I sincerely hope this is the cause of your issues, but I would also talk to your doctor (not your boyfriend) about your symptoms. Request blood work.
Getting rid of bedbugs, if it has been a long-term infestation, is no joke. It is not as simple as disposing of the mattress and washing clothes. Those $!#*ers get into wood, they get into damn near well everything.
If you are the victim of a long term infestation, EVERYTHING needs to go. All your wooden/pressboard(ikea type) furniture. Your clothes and bedding need to be nuked in super hot water. Anything you have that shouldn't be washed that way can be dry cleaned, I believe this kills them as well. Mattresses gone, carpet, everything.
These mother$!#*ers are hell to get rid of once they have dug in. They can get into drywall. We had to dispose of a great deal of wooden furniture, have several walls replaced, towels, bedding, mattresses - all gone. Then had the exterminators in. And we didn't get them the first time. We had to come back over everything again. Now those $!#*ers are gone. $!#* them!
But here's hoping that the issue is a critter infestation and not an ornate, systematic process of assault orchestrated by her boyfriend on a nightly basis. I think this would be one of the only cases where someone's mental health deteriorating due to bedbug bites is a cause for celebration.