When it comes to strictly religious societies, there's a lot of shame and gossip that goes around. I wouldn't say it's the norm from the communities I grew up in. Most people just minded their business, went to the mosque, and did their own thing.
There were a few Judgey McJudgersons who kind of ruined it for everybody else, but for the most part, people were able to do what they want without much backlash from their families or community. Hell, I've gone pretty much full rogue and have managed to keep all of my Muslim friends and family members. My wife also used to wear hijab and has long since removed it and, with the exception of a few people who think it's their place to call her out on it (when I'm not around, I might add) nothing's really changed in her life.
But that's not to say there aren't still Islamic countries and communities that use the hijab as an excuse to control women. But to assume that the only reason a woman would wear hijab is due to her family forcing her to wear it, is pretty darn insulting to the woman wearing it.
"Personally, being an Arab Muslim woman in America, these sort of hateful messages aren't uncommon," she told Upworthy.
Someone was offended by the positive opinion Lamyaa had of her faith, and challenged her by saying that the only reason she was wearing a hijab was because her father was forcing her into it.
Lamyaa: Baba, I want to tell you something.
Lamyaa's father: Talk to me [asks her if she's OK in Arabic]
Lamyaa: Yeah I'm okay. I was thinking. I want to take my hijab off.
Lamyaa's father: Sweetheart that's not my decision to make. That's no man's decision to make. If it's what you feel like you want to do, go ahead. I'll support you no matter what. Is everything okay? Did something happen?
"People believe that Islam is misogynistic, hateful, or violent, and I think that stems from their inability to differentiate culture and religion. Islam is a religion and, like all religions, it is what you bring to it."
But she wanted to point out that there are tons of Muslim women, like Lamyaa, who wear the Hijab because they choose to, and to assume that they're being forced into it is dismantling their agency as women, based solely on their religion. (h/t upworthy)