In an ideal world, you would only have one wedding and that means there is a lot of pressure to get it right. That's made even more complicated by the fact that everyone has their own definition of "right."
Do we want it to be small or large? Inside or outside? White or pink napkins? These are the kinds of questions that can keep people up at night.
The answer, I suppose, is that there is no real right answer. The right answer is whatever you decide it to be. So make your choice and stick with it. That's a lesson the following people learned a little too late.