Approaching someone to ask them out on a date has to be one of the most nerve-wracking things in the world. Anxiety kicks in, you start to second guess every move you make and every single step you take towards them, your body is telling you to retreat, retreat, retreat.
You try to make things comfortable. You try to make it easier on yourself and less awkward when you strike up a conversation, but your heart is beating the entire time. Maybe you hit it off, maybe you don't - but whether you come off as a creep or not depends largely on the situation you're in. If you're in a club and you ask a girl if you can buy them a drink and try striking up a conversation, you're probably in the clear.
But if you're a pizza guy who took someone's online order, then took their phone number without their knowledge and texted them out of the blue, then, I'm sorry, you're being a total creepster.
And if you think that's crazy talk and no one would be daft enough to go and try something like that, well, you're wrong. It totally happened, and this Twitter user posted screencaps of the conversation to prove it.
In case you work in the food service industry and are wondering whether or not it's OK, it's not.
Even if some people thought the guy didn't do anything wrong by asking her out this way.
This is a tough issue but he was a gentleman he was polite how else is a man supposed to take his shot besides she has all those unchecked messages. You deserve better than that he don’t need those problems. There’s women will appreciate his candor ✌🏿 pic.twitter.com/5XHHSqi0pr— The J’bari tribe has spoken (@bougiegentleman) March 6, 2018
But there were plenty who thought it was wholly inappropriate and were more than happy to call it as they saw it.
You don't have to explain yourself, you were just minding your business and he decided to use your personal information without permission. Men will do anything to blame the victim 🙄— Casey (@gothpizza666) March 6, 2018
The amount of women saying he was being respectful are delusional. Using company information to contact customers is a firable offense. Who in their right mind finds a customers information to ask them out? Completely out of line.— FUCK the NRA (@CampbellIndya) March 7, 2018
And don't act like this woman doesn't have arguably the best point in this thread.
If this was your 16 year old daughter, would you still be feeling this cool about it?— JenniferRoseNYC (@JenniferRoseNYC) March 8, 2018
As off-the-wall it would seem for someone to risk their job by creepily messaging someone after breaching their privacy and taking their phone number without their consent, it turns out that there are plenty of other women out there who've experienced the same exact thing.
Like this woman who was minding her own business when she was hit on by a telemarketer on Snapchat.
I mean it's bad enough you're being called randomly and solicited to buy stuff. And then, that same annoying agent is hitting you up on Snapchat trying to get something started romantically with you. The nerve.
For the original poster, her mind is made up on the whole "respectful vs creep" debate.
Lmaoo the comments wild tho . I’m not gone let anybody tell me that him stealing my number isn’t an invasion of my privacy or boundaries . This was a damn near 40 year old man . Let’s get all the facts before we make assumptions.— La'shay ❣️ (@_TayPage_) March 6, 2018
& dude that called me fat . Bummy ass nigga . You tryna call me fat but CLEARLY somebody liking it 😂 you just mad ain’t nobody tryna get with yo bummy ass .— La'shay ❣️ (@_TayPage_) March 6, 2018
She wanted to reiterate that it is no way, shape, or form, cute.
Uber drivers have also been known to also hit on women when they're just trying to get from A to B.
I wasn’t in the mood to be hit on by my uber driver so I pretended like I didn’t know Spanish 🤷🏼♀️— mp (@friasmp) February 22, 2018
I’ve been hit on by a recurring Uber driver on my way to work constantly and it is VERY uncomfortable. It got to the point where I would willingly take the cancellation fee if he was the one picking me up.— this website is antiblack. (@Suntro_) March 6, 2018
Don’t hit on women in that environment pls, it’s creepy.
Basically, taking someone's number without their permission and reaching out to them, especially for a date, is not cool.
To be like “well women tweet all the time about wanting to be hit on by their uber driver” to justify why it’s ok for a rando to pick up a woman’s number on a receipt that already turned him down was... ick— Fatniss Collardgreen (@lexxaye) March 7, 2018
And if you're sitting here and asking yourself, "ugh, people are the worst, why can't potential lovers in real life act like ones in the movies?" if you take a look at most romantic comedies, you'll realize they're often just whimsical tales of assault. That's why I always opt for an action movie. Who needs creepy romance when you can watch Arnold Schwarzenegger blow stuff up with a bazooka?