sologamy

'Sologamy' Is The Wedding Trend Of People Marrying Themselves

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Nov. 18 2019, Updated 2:23 p.m. ET

What if you're tired of looking for the "right" one, but still want to get married?

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What if you think you've already found your soulmate and you see them every time you look in the mirror?

Well, if that sounds like you, then you might wanna just marry yourself.

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No, it's not a joke: "Sologamy" is a thing and more than a few people are doing it.

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The marriage trend is becoming increasingly popular, especially among single women. Some are calling it an "act of self love," and honestly it's hard to accuse someone of not really feeling themselves if they actually go and make it official with...themselves.

And just like the traditional wedding industry, it looks like businesses are now catering to sologamists.

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Sites like IMarriedMe are selling sologamy kits for around $200. They come with a wedding band, vows, and daily affirmation cards to get self-marrying customers all geared up for the big day when they walk themselves down the aisle. Yes, people are actually holding wedding ceremonies for when they've decided to tie the knot with themselves.

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"A roadmap to positivity, our I Married Me kit has all you need to create your own ceremony, including a self-wedding ring, vows and daily affirmation cards. A self-wedding is a symbolic ceremony — about reconnecting and staying connected with you. Wear the ring to remind you every day to LOVE YOURSELF."

If you're thinking of marrying yourself to get some of the same tax perks that married couples do, you may want to pump the brakes on a single-serving ceremony.

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It's more of a symbolic statement that's making a longtime practice official with a ceremony. Counselor Jonathan Bennett wrote in an email to the International Business Times:

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"The appeal of sologamy is in creating a formal process to remain single and celebrate. Creating a formal procedure to avoid marriage isn’t a new phenomenon. Vows of celibacy have been common in religious contexts for thousands of years. In a way, sologamy is a modern, secular version of it. Except instead of a symbolic marriage to an institution or deity, the person is making a commitment to him- or herself."
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Bennett went on to say that he wasn't convinced sologamy would necessarily catch on.

"Formalizing the single life through marriage to oneself is rare. I don’t see it catching on. Humans, hardwired by evolution, possess a basic need for companionship and completely writing off romantic relationships won’t be appealing to most men and women."
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The trend is also getting a fair share of critics, too.

And it even sparked a few brutally sexist comments on social media, as well.

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Sologamists are being criticized as being "narcissistic" and seeking attention for wanting to have a ceremony to celebrate how much they love themselves.

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But there are lots of people who support the practice, as well.

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And of course, there were jokes about it.

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What's your take on sologamy? A blatant indulgence of an unhealthy self-delusion? Or a sweet practice that helps to empower oneself? Gonna be an awkward conversation if the relationship ever goes south, though. Or the easiest one you'll ever make.

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