Everyone meets on dating apps nowadays, because that's supposedly the most efficient route to finding a fellow singleton. But anyone who has sat down with Tinder, Bumble, or even OkCupid knows that it's actually a lot of work to swipe through all the people you would never date in a million years. If you've felt discouraged by how few folks you want to connect with on these apps designed to connect, you're not alone. Well, you are, that's why you're on them, but you're not the only person having that same experience.
Writer Alanna Bennett asked her followers what they swipe left on when they're on a dating app. Swiping left is a rejection pretty much across the board on apps. Bennett says she has a few immediate deal breakers: anyone holding a weapon in a photo, and anyone who might make her hike. Seems fair.
What do you automatically swipe left for if you see it on a dating app?— A.B. (@AlannaBennett) June 10, 2018
-Weapons (red flag)
-Too many outdoorsy activities (they will demand that of me one day)
I actually relate to the weapons one, but I appreciate somebody who leaves the house even if I never plan to camp anywhere with them. Different strokes for different folks.
But certain things seem to be universal:
Oh, another one for me: I swipe left on any dudes working in finance. That can work really well for some people and that’s fine, but it’s probs not gonna mesh with me— A.B. (@AlannaBennett) June 10, 2018
And other things that turn you on in someone's profile might be a hard pass for someone else:
Also, I’m seeing a lot of “pics with other women” responses. I’m fine if you have women friends (honestly that’s a plus) I just don’t want the pic to OBVIOUSLY be of your ex.— A.B. (@AlannaBennett) June 10, 2018
However, some stuff is extremely popular rejection material: tiger pics, anything to do with that Game of Thrones throne (you know what they're talking about), and shirtless pics.
Pics with tigers, pics on the throne from game of thrones, shirtless pics, people that say “work hard, play hard”.— Cher (@thecherness) June 10, 2018
-posing with any animal that isn't their pet (a fish they caught, a deer they killed, a tiger someone tranq'd)— Iron Ma (@thecommonraven) June 10, 2018
-wasting an entire photo on just their car
-rebel flags, maga hats
-listing their height but complaining about "having" to provide it
-sunglasses in every pic
- smoking pics— 𝕻𝖍𝖎𝖑 𝕴𝖘𝖙 𝕶𝖗𝖎𝖊𝖌 💖💜💙 (@Mechaphil) June 12, 2018
- weapons or camo
- Gadsden or Confederate flags
- ICP regalia
- hunting or fishing pics
I swipe left on anyone that describes themselves as "a country girl/boy", "fluent in sarcasm", "tells it like it is", professes a hatred of drama, or proclaims they're "real"
You want to know my dark secret? I like shirtless pics. Shows me what I'm getting.
Sometimes all it takes to get yourself rejected is a few words in the bio:
• The words ‘Wanderlust’ and ‘Adventure.’— Maddie McClouskey (@soundofmaddie) June 10, 2018
• Posed pictures with kids of color while on some sort of service trip.
• The “I’m a quirky actor with my mouth open” shocked face.
• Lists of athletic activities.
• People who list eating, drinking, and having fun as hobbies.
No one believes you really love adventure. If you did you'd go talk to someone in a bar.
The conversation was so compelling, people started sharing their own bios for review. Who knows if they're getting rejected for small things they don't realize are red flags, too?
It's a fun look at what your up against, if you're a lady. It seems to be mostly ladies who are brave enough to expose their bios on Twitter, so let that be a lesson to all the adventuring men out there:
Though apparently women claim to be adventurers as well:
We're all basic as hell!
So, we know what makes people swipe left, how do we get them to freaking swipe right?
Now I am curious to know what makes people swipe right (mostly so I can take notes for my own profile when I inevitably return to the apps, lolol)— Alicia Lutes (@alicialutes) June 10, 2018
The answer is dogs.
an even medium-funny joke in the profile, dog pics combined with some other charming attribute— devon maloney (@dynamofire) June 10, 2018
Dogs and shirtless pics (hellloooooo).