Online dating can be tough, mostly because the majority of people who are pinging you seem to always look for a "quick fix." And from my experience, and from what a lot of my friends tell me, it's mostly guys who are already in relationships and looking to cheat.
I'd bet if you were to ask any woman who's used a dating app like Tinder for a prolonged period of time what the first thing that pops into their head is when a guy begins a sentence with "full disclosure," they're expecting him to say that they're married.
In fact, a study once revealed that a third of people who use the app are already in a relationship, so the likelihood of that happening is fairly high (and it's not just men doing the fooling around).
So when Twitter user @CocktailAmma was getting into a back-and-forth with a dude on a dating app, and he dropped the "full disclosure" line before they actually met up, she assumed, like many people would, that he was already spoken for.
Yesterday I started chatting with a lovely looking man on a dating app. We hit it off great & decided to exchange numbers. Before doing that he wanted to give me a full disclosure. I immediately thought he’s married & this is a waste of my time. The next few messages he sent 💔— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
But as it turns out, the dude wasn't married. He didn't have a girlfriend. He wasn't fishing for a threesome. What he was disclosing wasn't that he already had feelings for someone else or that he wasn't in the right head space to have a serious relationship and was just looking for something casual.
In fact, what he had to say was heartbreakingly sweet.
In 2007-08 he met with a severe car accident because of which he was badly injured. Shattered bones, punctured lungs and a verdict by the best doctors that he wouldn’t be able to walk. He started walking in three months. He was featured in various publications.— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
The guy was worried that she wouldn't want to be with someone who was disabled.
While he was telling me all this I did not understand what was he getting at. All of this did not seem like a problem to me. Then he said he has a limp. And he would understand if I didn’t want to pursue this. A limp is what it takes apparently!— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
She couldn't believe that such a great human being felt so self-conscious about a minor physical issue, and thought he was "damaged goods" as a result.
This lovely man, whose story is so inspirational, treks whenever he gets a chance. He is devoted to his family & friends. He is opinionated and respectful. But we have managed to make him conscious of what he is “lacking”.— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
In case you're wondering whether or not she met up with him...she did.
And it sounds like the two of them hit it off big time.
How do I know all of this? Because I met him & we spoke till late into the night. And now I’m late for work. Have a nice day!— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
Hahahaha! End of this week most likely. He lives close to my place, for all we know we may meet sooner depending on our schedule.— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
People were calling their date the beginning of a storybook romance. Well, better than a storybook, it was something out of a Bollywood production.
Yeah definitely.. he should be very proud of himself ! That’s a Bollywood movie right there!— Mrinali Kaul (@mrinali89) March 21, 2018
Which, crazily enough, is very appropriate considering the be-smitten's line of work.
And considering I work in a movie studio I should probably float this idea 😬— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
That's right, she might've just found a new story to pitch to studio executives.
An idea that Twitter was all for.
But more people were into the idea of her dating him.
I mean, that's great and all, but if I were her I'd feel weird if people were jumping to conclusions about my love life on Twitter. Then again, she put it out there, so naturally there's going to be some commentary on it.
Hi to him. And screw the limp. He is awesome. Tell him I said so. :)— Radhika Tonsey (@radzzzzster) March 21, 2018
It's not like she seems to mind though, and Mr. Full Disclosure sounds like he's taking the news well to boot.
I have been updating him on all the love and support that is pouring in for him here. He thanks all of you :)— ଫୁଲେଇ ଝିଅ 🎈 (@CocktailAmma) March 21, 2018
This could be the start of something beautiful.