Raising kids in a way that'll ensure they don't end up as total degenerates is tough and before anyone tells you it isn't, I'd like to point to all of the total degenerates in the world as evidence.
When you love someone you naturally worry about them and want to make sure that they're not ruining their lives, but that worry manifests itself in different ways, and different families from different cultural backgrounds display their worry uniquely.
For my parents, it was drilling it into our heads from a very young age that going out to parties, dating, and doing drugs/drinking would pretty much result in a death sentence in our home. Plus, they always painted "party people" as absolute morons and disgusting individuals who destroyed their lives before it even began. As a result, me and my siblings developed some strange coping mechanisms.