Some boys don't understand that when you play a prank on your friend, your friend has to be the one embarrassed. Not your girlfriend, and not the woman your friend is marrying on the very day of your prank.
Such a boy is the subject and author of a completely infuriating "Am I the A-hole?" post. He writes that he and his friend are "the type to always pull pranks on each other." Sounds like a charmer already, doesn't he? His fatal mistake, though, was playing a prank at his friend's wedding.
OP thought it would be a hilarious prank on his friend to tell his girlfriend to wear white to his friend's wedding. He told her everyone was expected to wear it, that it was a quirky choice the bride had made.
She was obviously reluctant; everyone knows you don't wear white to a wedding, but she ultimately agreed after his convincing. "When we got to the wedding, it was standard wedding attire and my girlfriend was mortified," he wrote.
When his best friend, the groom, saw what OP had done, he thought it was hilarious and joked, "I guess you two are getting married instead of us!" Meanwhile, his wife, the bride, was extremely angry and made a big deal out of it.
His friend tried to calm her down and tell her it wasn't a big deal, but she was having none of it. OP wrote, "Normally she is really chill so I was surprised by her anger," like he has never once thought that maybe a woman's wedding day would be special to her and she'd want it to go perfectly after planning nonstop for months.
Now OP feels bad but still doesn't see why it was a big deal. It's amazing to me that he doesn't understand that you can't prank a friend by pranking your own girlfriend and a poor innocent bride who just wanted a perfect wedding day.
His friend was completely unscathed in this terrible prank situation. Commenters made sure he understood this. "It wasn't just your bestie that you did this too," one person spelled out. "You also did it to your GF and the poor bride. What an a--hole move."
"YTA on multiple levels," another person wrote. "You embarrassed your girlfriend by making her wear white to a wedding... You pissed off the bride by breaking one of the cardinal rules of weddings... And you're TA again for not realizing you screwed up and apologize to those involved."
Earlier in his post, OP explained that one time, his friend pranked him by telling him they were going to a costume party. So OP dressed up in a costume, but when they got there, everyone was dressed in normal clothes.
That was an acceptable prank because it was the prankee — the person who the prankster already knew liked being pranked — who was affected and embarrassed by the prank. It's baffling to me that this dude does not understand that what he did was terrible.
I personally think the girlfriend and the bride should run away together and leave these two prank boys to fend for themselves. It's what they deserve.