At its core, the fantasy of a "dream" wedding is rooted in something undeniably pure. Wanting to get every single detail right to celebrate and rejoice in the love that you found with someone you wanted is a beautiful thing — and no celebration, no matter how exorbitant, how outlandish, and beautiful, as corny as this sounds, can match the exhilaration of finding and fighting for true love.
But then you have people who ruin the whole thing by getting very, very weird when it comes to weddings.
And by weird I mean downright callous. It seems that some folks care more about the wedding than the actual people who are participating in it. If the whole point of a ceremony is to have family and friends rejoice in your blessed day, then wouldn't you want everyone to be just as happy and comfortable as you? Wouldn't you want those who matter most to you to take part in that special ceremony?
That may be a question that Redditor brinmendo is asking herself after posing a question to Reddit's AITA sub. She wanted to know if she was in the wrong for not wanting her father to "walk" her down the aisle, as he can't physically walk and is in a wheelchair.
While all of us have certain terrible thoughts from time to time, acting on those terrible thoughts and speaking them into reality is an entirely different story.
She says her father was in a terrible hit-and-run car accident that resulted in nearly every bone in his body being broken and leaving him paralyzed from the waist down.
She says that although she has a great relationship with her father, seeing him in pain is something that hurts her too much and as a result, she avoids seeing him.
While that's a whole other subject to unpack that presents a litany of problems that'll get conversational juices flowing, it gets worse. When the subject of who was going to "give her away" at the wedding came up in a family group chat, the bride decided to remain silent.
Instead, she messaged her mother privately and told her that she would prefer to have her uncle, who she is also close with, walk her down the aisle.
Her mother was absolutely livid and reamed her out then went and removed her from the group chat. OP's reasoning for not including her father? First, she didn't want to "be reminded of what could have been" as she walked down the aisle. Also, her father wouldn't be able to give her a "proper hug" or hold her arm. Also, the walkway would need to be widened in order to accommodate his wheelchair.
OP's aunt called her to tell the bride that her father was absolutely "devastated" by the news, as I would imagine any father would upon hearing such a thing.
She then turned to Reddit and wanted to know if she was in the wrong for suggesting someone other than her father have the honor of walking with her down the aisle.
The comments were not kind.
People called her "an awful daughter" and suggested that her "fiance should take a long look at who he is marrying," especially because OP's groom is close with her dad.
Others pointed out that it's especially cruel considering how her dad had to "let go [of] most of his dreams," and now that this one is being taken away from him, they can't help but feel for the man.
Many more encouraged the bride to be more empathetic to her father. It's one of those rare occurrences in the AITA subreddit during which pretty much everyone unanimously agreed the poster was an awful person.
What do you think?