In life, there are going to be a ton of things we just aren't going to understand and wish we never did. This is where TikTok comes in. Tons of people have joined the platform over the years to talk about everything from financial advice, to gaming videos and sharing life experiences.
TikTokers are also using the platform to talk about previously held religious beliefs. Videos have been going viral from ex-Mormons talking about something that's become known as the "Mormon Soaking TikTok." It turns out that this may be a common occurrence in Mormonism that bends the rules about how people should behave.
What is the Mormon Soaking TikTok?
In Sept. 2021, a TikTok of user @funeralpotatoslut got close to four million views in less than a week. In the video, she's seen jumping on a bed with what looks to be a person-shaped lump of pillows wearing a wig next to her. If this wasn't weird enough, the caption doesn't explain much unless you know what she's talking about.
"When your bestie is called to soak in a BYU dorm and you have to jump hump for her," the caption said. The reasoning behind why people do this gives a clear understanding of how teenagers in the Mormon faith can struggle with wanting to have sex. One way they deal with this is called "soaking."
To help us figure out what this means, TikToker and ex-Mormon @exmolex came to the rescue with a video that's reached five million views. She says that teenagers in the Mormon faith aren't allowed any kind of sexual contact, even though at that age and in college years, they experience all the same feelings the rest of us do. As a way to bend the rules, they "soak."
This is when two people, in this example a girl and a guy, want to have sex, but can't. So instead, the guy penetrates the girl and stays still. Then, someone else jumps on the bed next to them to kind of simulate what it's like to have sex. Apparently, thrusting of any kind isn't allowed because that's what makes it sex and instead of bending the rules, they would be broken.
How is soaking not actually sex?
In a follow up TikTok, @exmolex answered some questions people sent her way. One of them was if Mormons really don't consider soaking as sex. She said that even though younger Mormons do it, they know it's not allowed and a lot of them do talk to their bishops about it after the fact.
Soaking isn't meant to replace sex, but it's something they do in the moment when they can't help themselves, according to the TikToker. They justify their actions by saying they didn't really have sex.
@exmolex also mentioned that there are other names for soaking like "floating" and "marinating." In another video, she also says there's something called "durfing" which is like humping with your clothes on.