Free advice: if your partner puts on a little weight, let it slide. I know no one will take that advice, but I'm giving it anyway. The human body fluctuates, especially with the seasons. If you're genuinely worried about someone's health, that's one thing.
But if they're just carrying around a little winter belly, suggest you all go on a long walk and cook them a healthy dinner. Or be productive in some kind of imaginable way, like get yourselves both a gym membership or suggest you go for a hike. Even planning some meals together so you don't end up always ordering delivery from the couch can be a productive approach.
You know what they say, if you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all. It's a hackneyed phrase that we often want to ignore, but even in today's day and age, it has to be repeated. Be a productive help to your significant other if you're so worried about their weight. Then keep your trap shut.
Unfortunately, Twitter user @babyyygucci's boyfriend never heard this advice, or chose to ignore it. She shared some pretty astounding text messages from him with her followers, and the tweet went viral:
In his messages, @babyyygucci's boyfriend that she doesn't look like she did on her Instagram feed, which is how he found her. I mean, who does? He also suggests it's "weird" that her belly sticks out more than his. I am envisioning a guy with a huge belly, because most women find it difficult to have flat stomachs. But we don't have a photo to confirm.
She also shared a photo of her current look:
And weight—she says it hasn't changed since they met.
I also want to say, I was 120 when he met me 2 months ago.— shelbs (@babyyygucci) March 30, 2018
It's also been a struggle for her to put on weight. As a teen, she was extremely skinny, and it made her feel bad about her body. She's been happy to gain weight as she ages:
My journey of my body has been long. In highschool I was 80-90 and my doctors never figured out why I couldn’t keep on weight. At 20, I started gaining. When i did, I never felt happier and more healthy. I worked hard for this body. I am 120 pounds of pure growth. pic.twitter.com/vyLGUuT0fu— shelbs (@babyyygucci) March 30, 2018
The vast majority of people had the same advice:
Dump him and buy a dog :)— kaitlyn 💟 (@ktmlowee) March 31, 2018
girl you are SOOO effing beautiful okay. im so happy you are planning on leaving him because you deserve someone who will love you at any weight and always make you feel beautiful and loved. youll find a guy like that i promise, just gotta get through assholes like him💛💛— hannah (@_hannahaleene) March 31, 2018
SHALLOW! GET RID OF HIM! Sorry but a real man wouldn't be saying shit like that. That's coming from a man whose GF's weight fluctuates because she lacks a thyroid from having cancer previously. I'd love her regardless of how she looks.— Notty VonDutch™ (@NottyVonDutch) March 30, 2018
A few shared their experiences of having boyfriend's who complained about their weight in an abusive manner:
Break up with them now.— Ali Barthwell (@wtflanksteak) March 31, 2018
It's only going to get worse. Five months is still the honeymoon phase. If it's like this now, a year down the line is gonna be awful.
I had a bf do something similar. I gained maybe 5 lbs when we were dating because I was happy & eating & he called me out. Here are some pics of me before & after btw. Top is before, bottom is after. Can you tell a difference? Me neither. pic.twitter.com/iDG8hlqa2V— Merrydeath (@meredithlegare) April 4, 2018
HONEY. I was in this spot. He made me run on a treadmill while I was crying and having a panic attack. Leave now. Please— T (@witchyfemme) March 30, 2018
The support, plus a visit to the therapist, made @babyyygucci feel like she was definitely going to DTMF. And she did.
I haven’t been able to see him since I posted this. With the help of my therapist today I have a plan to end things and move on. I will be seeing him tomorrow and dropping a hefty 180 pounds. The support I got is amazing. I really thought only my few twitter friends would reply!— shelbs (@babyyygucci) March 30, 2018
I want to update you guys that we are broken up. He was really unhappy and felt like shit, especially after knowing my tweet went viral. He has told me he’ll use this as a learning experience to be a better person. And here I am, single and free 😇— shelbs (@babyyygucci) April 1, 2018
He supposedly feels bad about the whole thing, but he's gonna feel worse when he reads her mentions:
Good for you - you don't need that negativity & frankly you look perfectly fine anyway. Jesus, he was making a big deal out of nothing.— 🇪🇺 Skiamakhos 🇪🇺 (@skiamakhos) April 2, 2018
you worth so much more than him sweetie you're stunning and you deserve somebody wayyyyy better, you go girl 💪— my Canadian Boy (@camillxrauhl) April 2, 2018
Hit me up.😉😎— Trent Lee (@trentslee) April 4, 2018
Ayy good for you!! Keep on thriving!!— Strider (@casey_salazar) April 2, 2018
But he can always check up on how she's doing on Insta: