Mom Dances With Stillborn Baby on TikTok as a "Coping" Mechanism

A mother grieving over her stillborn baby posted videos of herself dancing and lip-syncing with its body in order to cope with the loss.

Mustafa Gatollari - Author

Apr. 17 2023, Updated 9:15 a.m. ET

Mom Dances With Stillborn Baby on TikTok as a "Coping" Mechanism
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There's a strong argument to be made that social media – with all of its posing, cheap replications of human emotion, and faux positivity masquerading as sincerity – has done a pretty good job of effectively robbing our species of humanity. People have no idea how to act, and it's becoming more and more evident that our "natural" personalities are pretty darn awful.

While that might appear like an overdramatic statement, it seems to be the only reason someone would post a video of themselves dancing with a stillborn baby on TikTok.

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People are shocked that TikTok hasn't removed this video of a woman dancing with her stillborn baby.

User @lexxxieb has been chronicling her pregnancy for months on the popular social media platform and sadly, when it came time to deliver her child, it was born without a heartbeat.

Perhaps because Lexie was looking forward to posting a clip with her newborn or because she was overcome with grief, the TikToker decided it would be a good idea to immortalize what could have been by dancing with her stillborn baby on the platform.

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And people are expressing how horrified and offended they are at the fact that she went "full TikTok" with the clip – from the music choice, the filter on her face, and the fact that she uploaded more than one clip featuring her stillborn.

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People can't decided which one is worse: the rainbow clown face clip or the lip-sync video, where she's mimicking the BoJack Horseman character Sarah Lynn as she talks to the baby.

In one video, Lexie commented that she's "coping" with the stillbirth in her own way: "Dark humor at its finest let me cope in peace pls #pregnancy #fyp #viral."

In another video, she writes, "How I choose to deal with my stillborn birth let me cope in peace." #fyp #pregnancy #viral

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Video comments were disabled, probably because there were a number of people who couldn't believe that someone was using their child's stillbirth as a means of getting on TikTok's "For You Page."

It's difficult to imagine what was going through her head, especially as she wrote that she wanted to cope "in peace."

One would assume if you're attempting to "cope in peace," that might imply you want to be left alone. But by posting a video for everyone to see on the internet, she's subjecting the world to her coping process.

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Why hasn't TikTok taken down the stillborn baby video?

Since the videos initially weren't found to be in violation of TikTok's user policy, the app left them up; however, moderators ultimately decided to take the clips down. "While it can be difficult for platforms like ours to balance the individual’s need for healing expression with the community’s expectation for a safe viewing experience, our own Community Guidelines determined this as the appropriate action to take," Hashtag Hyena reported.

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However, Lexi continues to upload videos of her with her baby and has been answering users' questions about her decision to do so. Somehow, her clips have received millions of likes and replays on the platform, with many viewers commenting on their shock value.

While some criticized Lexi, others stated that hers were clearly the actions of someone who was deeply grieving. Many Twitter users also said that she shouldn't be criticized for her videos as she's probably not in the right state of mind following such a traumatic event.

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Then, there were others who couldn't believe someone would actually post viral clips of their stillborn child online. But people on the internet were quick to point out that Lexi isn't the first person to post this kind of video, believe it or not.

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