Social media can be quite brutal, and to put it bluntly, a racist place. Without opening the can of worms that is a discussion regarding cultural appropriation, a sore subject for many folks is hairstyles.
My wife is African and has very thick hair that needs specific, extensive care to make sure it looks and feels its best. There are certain hairstyles that she simply cannot rock because her hair isn't "made for it".
Now that doesn't mean she can't try her darndest to straighten/treat her hair. She's got family in Egypt who've lost clumps of their own follicles by being a little overzealous with lye solutions that singe their heads into bald oblivion. She's learned the hard way herself that relying too heavily on flat irons will singe and straight-up burn her own hair.
My daughter inherited my wife's hair, and I've learned to not only be overly generous with conditioner, but how to braid and style her hair to ensure it doesn't become a frizzy, brittle mess
My son, on the other hand, has hair that's closer to my own. And the way he gets his hair cut, washed, and cared for is much different than his siblings.
Different hair, requires a different kind of love, something this TikTok-er learned the hard way.